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Friday, 20 February 2015

Lifestyle: Saying Goodbye To Toxic Relationships

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Sometimes in life it is necessary to rid yourself of toxic people, be it in a platonic, romantic or professional relationship, unfortunately family can prove a little tougher to deal with.

If a relationship is no longer bringing you joy then what are you truly benefiting from it? Holding onto toxic people only prolongs your own pain and at times you truly need to get out of your comfort zone and put yourself first.

I have cared (and some I remain to care for) for many people during my childhood and adolescence. Entering adulthood, I have come to realise that sometimes you just cannot make things work and if your friends are not supportive then are they really your friends?

Life can be difficult enough without having to worry about those who are meant to care for you dragging you down.
There are many different types of toxic relationship, someone can be mentally damaging towards you, emotionally and on the worst end of the scale physically. At the end of the day, abuse is still abuse no matter what form it takes and it is not acceptable.

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If you have someone in your life that undermines you, tries to compete with you, is unnecessarily jealous or envious of your successes, clouds you with their negativity (every day seems to bring with it a new tragedy), gossips incessantly about those around you (take this as a general rule, if they gossip to you, then they most likely gossip about you), are not supportive of your goals, act possessive or are incessantly needy of your  and everyone elses attention (all friends are there to offer mutual emotional support but relationships should not leave you feeling burdened or be one-sided), are inconsiderate, critical, prove to be a bad influence (we inevitably become influenced by our environment) or are at times are just downright manipulative, then get rid. Immediately.

Bonds can deteriorate, and once someone begins to grate at your patience and sanity they are not worth hanging on to. With friends you should never feel wary, you should be able to be open-minded without feeling conflicted or irritated. If you find yourself dreading to see a friend, making excuses to avoid doing so and feeling drained if you do eventually meet, then it all becomes pretty self-explanatory.

All relationships are complex and require a bit of give and take at times, but if your relationships are starting to drain you and stop bringing you emotional reward and joy, then it is a drastic warning sign to let that person go. Do so without speaking badly of them, as negativity never breeds happiness. Friends should make you happier and help you to escape or solve your problems, not cause them.

Healthy relationships are the only relationships you need, surround yourself with those who value you and you will soon start to feel a lot better in yourself. Your relationships should bring out the best in you and they reflect upon your own character. So remember, "you are only going to be as good as the people you surround yourself with so be brave enough to let go of those who are weighing you down."

Have you ever experienced a toxic relationship? How did you let that person go? 

Stephanie xox

Wednesday, 18 February 2015

Beauty: MAC Lipstick ~ Lady Danger

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This beautiful MAC lipstick was gifted to me for Valentine's day by my adorable friend Paulina. In Poland, it is customary to share gifts with all your loved ones (not just your significant other) so she lovingly selected a Mac shade for all the ladies in her life and Lady Danger was mine.

The Lady Danger lipstick, was cleverly chosen by Paulina for me for its name and shade (I am not entirely sure if I cause, or if I am always in said danger mind). The Lady Danger lipstick is described as a 'vivid and bright coral-red' and has a matte finish. It is very bold and very pigmented with warm and bright undertones of red and orange. I find the red dominates but the subtle orange hint makes it a unique shade in my collection (Ruby Woo is my go to shade for the classic red lip) of red lipsticks.

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Like I find with all MAC lipsticks, Lady Danger has a lovely creamy texture, stands out (makes for a vibrant daytime look) and is long-lasting, having worn it myself throughout the day or night (around six hours depending, when it does wear it leaves a flattering coral stain behind). As Lady Danger is a matte formula, you have to be sure to keep your lips buffed and moisturised with balm before application as dry flakes can show easily with this shade, and this is never a good look.

Lady Danger offers a rich coverage, warm colour and intense shade. As I have quite large lips I can find application a tad awkward but I feel investing in a lip liner may solve these issues (if anyone could recommend me one, that would be fabulous). I find Lady Danger the perfect alternative to the classic red lipstick and it applies wonderfully on all skin tones, including my pale one!

Do you like Lady Danger? Which is your favourite MAC shade of lipstick?

Stephanie xox

Friday, 13 February 2015

Beauty: Hello Kitty Graffiti Lipsticks ~ Urban Punk, Baby Doll and Hittin the Block

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When shopping around TK Maxx for makeup and clothes the other day I could not resist this cute trio of Hello Kitty lipsticks (there were more shades available in store but I could not justify the entire collection) alongside my now beloved Measurable Difference Face & Body Bronzer.

My Hello Kitty obsession has led to me purchasing an abundance of themed stationary, plush toys and crockery, so when I found Hello Kitty cosmetics I was very pleased with myself indeed.

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Considering the relatively low cost (from fifty pence to two pounds on sale), I found the lipsticks to be of a rather good quality and I selected a pink, brown and peach shade to take home with me.

The pink shade Baby Doll gives a lovely subtle shimmer, nice on its own or over a more bold lipstick. The brown shade Hittin The Block proves itself to be extremely bold, not really my colour as I am rather fair skinned but lovely on friends with a less pink skin tone (boo). Unfortunately, I found that the peach shade Urban Punk washed me out and proved to match my pale skin tone and hide my natural lip colour entirely!

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Some may find it tacky but I find the graffiti print packaging very cute (an infantile word but very appropriate). However, as these lipsticks are cheaper than other high street brand cosmetics the casing is a bit flimsy.

The iconic and adorable Hello Kitty faces atop the lipsticks really make them stand out from my other lipsticks upon my makeup organiser, a serious cute overload amidst the Mac, Soap & Glory and Rimmel.

Have you ever tried any Hello Kitty cosmetics? Which shade would you choose from the trio? 

Stephanie xox

Wednesday, 11 February 2015

Beauty: Measurable Difference Face & Body Bronzer

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After dancing the night away I awoke and felt pretty shoddy (no hangover thankfully, just pain from wearing my ridiculous high heels and dancing to hip hop for over four hours). After an hours note taking for one of my up-and-coming university essays I decided to lift my spirits and venture into town to do some shopping. This either means buying makeup, clothes or stationary and sometimes it can be all three, oops.

Thankfully for my bank balance, I went with just makeup and clothes (I got an adorable black embellished play suit but it is too big on me so must sadly be returned tomorrow) this time. Yet again I purchased all of these items from my beloved TK Maxx, I am in there so often now for beauty products it is verging on ridiculous.

Along with the play suit, I bought three Hello Kitty lipsticks (I have a scary obsession with the brand, most find it strange) and the Measurable Difference Face & Body Bronzer, which I just adore.

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The 'bronzer' is actually not bronzed at all! It is a lovely delicate shade of pink and multi-purpose so "can be worn on the face, legs and body". As my Mac Pink Swoon powder blush is on its last legs I felt this could be the perfect (and less costly) alternative.

I applied the bronzer with my Nanshy blush and bronze brush as advised and found it to subtly added colour, giving me a perfect summer-kidded glow. To create a more defined look, Measurable Difference advises you continue to build upon the colour until you are satisfied. As I am quite pale I rely on my bronzers and blushers to brighten my complexion and this pigmented bronzer highlighted my face wonderfully, it also leaves your skin with a bit of a shimmer which is always nice, especially on those dull and dreary days.

Look out for it in TK Maxx stores or buy it online here.

What is your favourite bronzer or blusher? Have you used Measurable Difference makeup before? 

Stephanie xox

Saturday, 7 February 2015

Lifestyle: Ello, the anti-Facebook

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I am undeniably obsessed with all things social media. The amount of time I spend on my Samsung Note 3 and PC each day would shock and/or disgust most, so when I heard of Ello I was desperate to get my own account and thus be in on the 'hype'.

Dubbed the "anti-Facebook", Ello is a "simple, beautiful and ad-free social network" that came to my attention during Autumn 2014 (becoming public in August 2014). It doesn't have advertisements and it won't utilise and profit off your data (although its revenue has come under speculation with its popularity boom).

To create an account, you must be invited. It is an exclusive affair and a tedious wait for an invitation (it is still in the beta stage) as I know too well having only just accessed my account.

I am going to be honest, I signed up earlier today and was rather baffled by the website at first, can something be so simple it is impossible to navigate? Thankfully no.

I eventually got the hang of things although it did take me a good 5 minutes to figure out how to upload my profile picture. I cannot even blame the mediocre internet connection for this one, it was a simple drag from my documents and drop into place affair.

Saying this, I genuinely had to watch the tutorial (which sounds as if Stephen Hawking narrated it himself) beforehand and this has never happened to me on any other social networking site before. Ello is not as user-friendly as its veteran competitors.

"Next, pick a profile image, make it a hot one" had me giggling to no avail as I customised my header to a lovely floral print with ease (drag and drop again, it does come in handy).

Ello is very minimalist in design and features (like Marmite, you will either love this about the website or loathe it), customisation isn't a strong point.

I soon got into the swing of things and began to add people with similar interests to me. On Ello you have your 'Friends' and 'Noise' steam alongside your notifications (lightning bolt icon) upon the left-hand side of the webpage.The 'Friends' stream holds your contacts feeds (recommended, related, random and search) and the 'Noise' stream allows you to select the posts you wish to see from your chosen people in an easy and accessible feed.

Anything that catches your eye along the way while browsing Ello can be shared to your own page easily, they have also recently enabled users to add music and videos to their feeds. The website seems to have elements of Tumblr, Twitter and Facebook in a wonderful social networking combination.

You have your personally decorated feed like Tumblr. Like Twitter, you seek people out who you do not know but who hold similar interests to your own and unlike Facebook you can avoid the hundreds of friend and family requests (exclusivity and a degree of anonymity have their strong points).

Ello proves to be a lot of fun once you begin to understand it. I plan to continue getting used to it and update it with anything that takes my fancy.

If you would like me to invite you to Ello then let me know via stephanie@thoughtsofawannabejournalist.com or via my Twitter @Stephmulz!

Whoever said plain meant boring eh?

What do you think of Ello? Profound or just plain? 

Stephanie xox

Beauty: W7 In The Nude palette, the perfect Urban Decay Naked3 dupe

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Wandering around TK Maxx with my girl friends hunting out discount shoes recently our eyes crept towards the beauty products.

I have become a bit of a fiend when it comes to the discount store, seeking out makeup and delicious treats. I find that TK Maxx stock a lot of beloved UK brands as well as foreign, and all for a fraction of the cost (shipping fees are not kind when buying your makeup internationally).

Amidst Look Beauty, Physicians Formula and Calvin Klein cosmetics I found the tinned treasure which is the W7 In The Nude palette, a perfect Urban Decay Naked3 dupe.

This natural and nude eye colour palette is fantastic and  around a quarter to an eighth of the cost of the renowned Naked3 palette depending on where you purchase it.

The 12 shades come with a double ended applicator brush (the quality of the sponge applicator side is questionable, but the shades are so fabulous considering the price you cannot really complain) and include the following: Latte, Angel, Venice, Marilyn, Copper Pot, Sun Kissed, Alice, Bad Manners, Coffee Cup, Mud Slide, Tokyo and Fashionista.

My favourites have to be Latte and Copper Pot, the two compliment each other perfectly for a natural look with a little shimmer (glitter is a girls best friend, always).

W7 say themselves that the shades are "inspired" and the pigments are almost identical to the Naked2 palette. In The Nude is packed full of creamy colours, rich textures and a wonderful variety of matte and shimmery eye shadows.

W7 other palettes Lightly Toasted and In The Buff dupe Naked and Naked2, completing the copies of the original Urban Decay Naked trio.

I apply all my eye shadows with primer beforehand and find the In The Nude shadows last throughout the day or through the night (and we have some pretty wild nights out in Nottingham) without creasing or fading.

In my experience it lasts as long as my Urban Decay Book of Shadows Vol. II palette eyes shadows (I have adopted a friends but I am yet to invest in my own Naked palettes, impoverished student and all that).

In The Nude is available online at W7 here,  in some TK Maxx stores but is cheapest at Amazon here.

Are you a fan of dupe products? Which eye shadow brand is your favourite?

Stephanie xox